Question of the Day: Day 99
How can you help people who appear (through their words and actions) to be sad or depressed but refuse to do anything about it for themselves?
posted by Michelle at 8:29 AM
We are looking for answers to some hard questions as we dig deep inside and explore our own core values and how that guides not just our own lives but the very world that we live in. These questions will be asked to a group of high school students but we would also like to hear from the world at large. While we hope to keep this forum wide open we do reserve the right to delete responses that we find to be offensive or combative in nature. Thank you for participating with us.
posted by Michelle at 8:29 AM
4 Comments:
Be who you are - shine your light. There is a great model for people who want to help others in situations like this, it's called the Quinby Durable Triangle
Addendum:
The model might be a bit confusing, but what it means is that you can help people best when you set limits - limits that are yours - noone else has to agree to them.
For example, if someone is depressed and wants drugs - do you help them by scoring dope? The obvious answer is no- so, you set a limit. Many emotional support solutions that chronically depressed people seek are as unhealthy as a drug - and providing those kinds of solutions can drag the supporter down and create even more illness.
Again, be who you are - shine your light - offer support - set limits.
Peace
-b
Love, kindness, and attention are the main things that you can give to someone who is depressed.
They may not even know that they are in that state and it could be potentially harmful to let it go on for too long without some kind of intervention.
We can't be too busy living our lives that we fail to help those that we care about to continue living theirs.
i can not answer that because i believe that if they are not willing to help them self there is nothing you can do to help them. were i live there is a kid here who blames all there problems on everyone but himself, but yet he say's he want's help and i keep telling him that if he dose not look at him self then there is nothing anybody can do to help him. but he dose not care so therefor i ncan not help that person get and keep friends because they can not look at themself for what happens, to him it is always soneone elses fault and never his. with me i try to look at myself befor the other person and see what my part in it was so once again in my opion you can not help anybody who dose not want to help themselves
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