Question of the Day: Day 47
Is it difficult to be assertive?
Why or why not?
Why or why not?
posted by Michelle at 9:11 AM
We are looking for answers to some hard questions as we dig deep inside and explore our own core values and how that guides not just our own lives but the very world that we live in. These questions will be asked to a group of high school students but we would also like to hear from the world at large. While we hope to keep this forum wide open we do reserve the right to delete responses that we find to be offensive or combative in nature. Thank you for participating with us.
posted by Michelle at 9:11 AM
7 Comments:
Yes it is hard to be assertive because many people are afraid to stand up for what they feel is right.People are afraid of being judged or not in the cool crowd I think that is stupid but some people do not.
What Diana O said and people don't have a clue on what assertiveness and what proactive means. All because of excuses, excuses, excuses.
I WOULD HAVE TO SAY NO IT IS NOT HARD BEING ASSERTIVE. IT IS NOT HARD FOR ME PERSAY BECAUSE, I REALLY NEVER HAD A PROBLEM TELLING IT LIKE IT IS. WELL THEN AGAIN I HAVE A PROBLEM TELLING IT LIKE IT IS, BUT ONLY ONCE IN A BLUE MOON, LIKE THE PERSON IT IS.
I think it is not because I just be myself, well most of the time.
I'd say that I manage to be assertive about 85-90% of the time.
The only times that it becomes difficult for me are when I'm frustrated and begin to be less tactful that I know I should be. That's not being assertive when you aren't being courteous and respectful. I'm working on that.
The other times are when I have simply given up and no longer choose to make a stand for something. At some point you sometimes have to decide that this is NOT the hill you want to die on and just let something go and move on.
I think that, for most people, it is difficult the first few times. I also think that people are more likely to be assertive when it concerns something that they either really care about or feel confident in their understanding of the issue. I also believe that the tiniest piece of doubt preceeds every assertive action. Those labelled assertive generally get over that initial fear a little faster than others. I also believe any and every person is capable of being assertive. We usually worry so much about the worst case scenarios that we psyche ourselves out. The truth is, that in the vast majority of times, the worst case never happens! Once you realize this, it becomes easy to take control of the situation, to own the stage, etc., and finally be assertive.
To me it is at some point difficult to be assertive. Because most people think about what other people will think about them
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