Question of the Day: Day 25
How do you say goodbye to someone who is leaving (or has left) your life?
posted by Michelle at 9:02 AM
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posted by Michelle at 9:02 AM
14 Comments:
Sometimes it depends on why we are saying goodbye.
In general, I rid myself of 'things' related to the person who is gone from my life - but cherish the memories of them.
I lost someone in my life, and befor they died I said alot of mean things to them, and I was never able to say goodbye, and I was never able to say sorry. So it is hard for me to say good bye. So I can honetsly say I do not know how to say good bye to some people ALL I can relly say is the regular bye nice knowing you good luck.
It depends - if someone who has been good in my life needs to go, they really don't - they're just not where I can hug them, but their essense is still with and part of me.
There are people who I have broken contact with becasue they are most definitely not good for me, those I just treat like the good ones, except I don't make contact - I just get too busy doing things and seeing people that are good for me. If I run into those people, I am kind and considerate, and hope for the best - sometimes people need soem room to grow and change - occasionally it happens, and I do see more of them.
If we're talking about death, I don't consider death much of a barrier - as a Buddhist I accept the likelihood of reincarnation, and am always ready to meet someone who I have already known is some past life.
goodbye is relative, but not always permanent.
you either say it with a smile, or with a tear in your eye, knowing either way, the time spent apart will be a time of greiving for those you truly will miss, and/or a time of happines knowing that person's leaving is a good thing for them.
;-)
What is goodbye, but a chance to find another. Is there really a space between, for those people that leave your life, are never truly gone? Memories of times gone by, actions taken, and carefree moments where you inhale life fully, these are the things that go far beyond another’s soul, something that carries farther than one person. If you have these moments get them out, share the wealth, for I have never met Poe, Dickinson, or Keats, but their memories of a bygone era, create all that they knew and experienced and set it ablaze in anyone they impacted. So goodbye is rarely forever, goodbye may not even exist.
Thats a hard question because I have had a lot of people I love die in my life. When I was 5 years old my grandfather died, When I was 11 my great grandmother died, When I was 12 my uncle Ted died and when I was 13 my cousin Joey died. I was never able to tell any of them how much they were a part of my life but I can at least remember how they were there. There were alot of bad memories involved with him but I loved them no less. I try to focas on the good things that happened and not the bad.
I won't not know how to say goodbye to someone i love.TO many people left me in my life and i can't take no more pain.
i will give them in advice and say good bye.
If i have to say goodbuy to someone, i would spend time with them all i could, because thats what i think is good.
I find that saying hello is way better then saying goodbye.
I say goodbye in many different ways usually I never get to say goodbye they just leave.
I have kind of gotten used to this.
It still hurts but I get over the pain. Sometimes the pain stays and I get scared it will never go away but like all of the rest the pain goes away.
I DO NOT SAY GOOD-BYE TO PEOPLE THAT HAS LEFT OR IS LEAVING MY LIFE.I ALWAYS SAY SEE YOU LATER. JUST BECAUSE SOME ONE IS LEAVING OR HAS LEFT DOES NOT MEAN I WILL NEVER SEE THEM AGAIN.
I have discovered that the people that we truly care for never really leave us.
Their physical presence may be gone but a part of them lives forever within us and that means that I never really have to say goodbye.
Well, if you mean leaving as in for good, never to be seen again, a long hug if they are alive and a silent goodbye if they have passed away.
Where I grew up, the local indians had no word or phrase for goodbye in their native tongues. I've always liked that idea. It reinforces the idea of faith in seeing them again, whether on earth or in some spiritual world. It's very peaceful and reassuring.
I like closure and when I don't get this, I get hurt and will drive myself crazy with reason why this person left.
That is where forgiveness comes in. OTherwise i'd never have the peace that I deserve. Plus, there are better fish in the sea that you are meant to be with.
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