Question of the Day: Day 69
How can a person make it better when they have caused pain or broken trust in their family?
posted by Michelle at 9:21 AM
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posted by Michelle at 9:21 AM
5 Comments:
I think that the first thing that a person should do is to take responsibility for the harm that he/she has done.
From there it is a matter of rebuilding damaged relationships and broken trust so that the other members of the family feel safe again.
That may involve making a plan and taking baby steps and it may take a long time but if the offending person really does want to make it better then they have to invest the time and energy to get things as close to right as they can be.
Forgiveness (of self and others) can be an extremely powerful thing but it comes, usually, on the condition that the harmful behaviors no longer occur.
I think if someone want's to make what they have done wrong or hurtful to there family they should stop what they have done. Because if you say you are sorry but you do it again you are not sorry and you did not really want to make thing's right. You should be honest with your self and thnik ARE YOU REALLY SOORY FOR WHAT YOU HAVE DONE OR HAVE SAID!! I have learned from my graet teacheres michelle and debbi that you can not always be forgivin just because you ask to be, you have to show and act that you really are sorry.
Apologize in some way, then show that you are making it better. It takes time and patience for everyone, but when they all look back, hopefully they will see the results playing out.
I think the first step is to admit that you are responsible for the pain or broken trust. Then you must apologize for doing so. After that, if you can somehow make it right, either by telling the truth to a third party who had somehow been involved, or by stating that you had betrayed a confidence, etc., you should do it. Finally, you need to make sure your actions from here on don't betray again.
Ruben,
well if u brok trust u can always do someting to prove yo trust to da family. but pain well that sucks.
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