Question of the Day: Day 105
Have you ever been manipulated by being made to feel guilty about something?
Did it impact your relationship with that person and, if so, how?
Did it impact your relationship with that person and, if so, how?
posted by Michelle at 9:06 AM
6 Comments:
Yes, my Dad did this. We have not spoken in about 12 years now.
Manipulated? Hah, my blog entry is about being manipulated to eat poison. It's entitled Easter Bunny Blues
no, i have not but is i was i bet it would not feel to good and i dont think you would have a very good reletionship with that person anymore
Yes, I have & I believe that what I felt was judged rather than appreciated for being honest, and that made me distance myself from the person.
yes, it made me not trust that person.
I think that parents do that to get their kids to do things fairly often. When it comes to small stuff it is really no big deal to just cave in and do what was probably the right thing to do anyway.
Take out the trash or do the dishes if someone (like your mom) has had a long day. It's just the right thing to do.
Big decisions, however, like where to live, having kids, job situations and things like that should never be made out feeling guilty and not just because you WANT to do that. To make life altering decisions out of guilt can wreck relationships and ruin lives.
I stayed in an unhappy marriage about three years longer than I should have because of feeling guilty about leaving. In the end, though, I had to do what was right for me and that ended up saving a bit of friendship instead of moving to a hateful place.
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