Question of the Day: Day 242
Are there different levels of trust? What does it take for your trust levels to go deeper with people?
posted by Michelle at 8:48 AM
Wednesday, August 30, 2006
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4 Comments:
well when first meet some one i always give them the benefit of the doubt. i dnt like to judge people based on other peoples opions or what they did in there past. but as far as having a tremndeous trust or people i only have that in very few people.
I believe that there are different levels or categories of trust. I know people whom I trust with my debit card but do not trust to keep a confidence; they just can't keep their lips zipped. There have been people in my life whom I would trust only when they are "sober", but whom I have learned not to trust to keep their word because their addiction(s) tend to get in the way of them keeping their word~ & so on.
There have been people who I trust so long as I go along (agree) with them, but the moment there is a disagreement, they are out for revenge... I've known people whom I would trust with a confidence, but whom I wouldn't trust for five minutes alone with my purse (sad, but true).
Characteristics which either hinder or deepen my trust in another are:
Their track record
oOservations of how they treat the other significant people in their lives
Their consistancy~ or lack of
How quick they are to pass judgement on others
Whether or not they tend to gossip~ (have diarrhea of the mouth)
Their general stability
Whether or not the threaten, place many conditions, or I find them to be manipulative
AND
Whether or not they are open~ over time to revealing themselves...
How they react to my self disclosure (attempt to understand, embrace, openly discuss, or judge harshly, are indifferent, ignore, and/or continually stone wall.
&
What my instincts tell me.
yes. i think so.
consistancy, and honor. and always telling me the truth when a lie would do.
;-)
Trust grows - and can be poisoned - and can die. There are a few people I don't trust at all, many I trust (unless they prove otherwise), and a few I trust with my life.
Time, and practice, IMO, is what it takes.
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